Thursday, February 14, 2013

You Make A Difference - Even If You Don't Know It

Since today is Valentine's Day,  I'd like to share a simple, powerful event that happened in my life.  Share the love.    :)


When one recognizes and respects the individual worth and contribution of a person, one can change the world.

A couple years ago, someone came up to me and said, "You saved my life."  I'll call to this person Jude.  My immediate reaction internally was that of surprise, disbelief and "what could I have done that was that important."  Outwardly, I was just plain speechless.  With further explanation, I was told that a project I had kickstarted, rekindled hope and faith in Jude's life and that I had come at a time when days were dark and desperate.  After getting over my shock and listening....really listening, I realized the truth and sincerity in Jude's words.  This was not someone who said things like this to stroke a person's ego.  I could tell that this was difficult and confessional. I realized at that moment just how fragile we can be as people and how much of an impact we can have in what we do and how we treat others.

I am lucky.  I got a glimpse of how I made a positive impact in someone's life.  Most people will never find out.  Sometimes the simple act of a smile or a simple gesture of good will can bring sunshine into an otherwise dark day.   So share the love today and if it's possible, tell someone how they made your life better.  Thanks Jude.  You changed my life too.  Happy Valentine's Day!

Saturday, February 9, 2013

Your Community Leaders: Empowering People and Creating Community Investment


During the 2008 and 2012 elections, Barack Obama's community organizing background was mocked and ridiculed, at times it was insinuated that it didn't carry enough weight to even be considered as an experience for the now 2nd term President.  I dare say that this "ground game" of community organizing was probably one of the keys to his success.  The ability to mobilize both large and small groups of people towards a common goal takes nerve, tenacity, perseverance and vision.  In most instances, these mobilized "armies", large and small, are volunteers who believe so strongly in their cause that they are willing to face anger, rejection and even disappointment on a regular basis.  The ability to rally such dedicated workers is an asset and a gift that successful community leaders possess.

While I don't claim to understand how the Obama campaign worked their magic, I can say that I have been witness to community organizing that has resulted in works that were thought to be almost impossible to accomplish in the small community I live in.  While these works were not globe changing in scope, they took one more step in the direction of change from the status quo, which in the cases that I refer to isn't a bad thing.  Getting it done came down to a few incredibly passionate, hard working people, willing to put their noses to the grind stone.  They not only told people that things would happen, but showed them things would happen through their perserverance and accomplishment - one step at a time.  Each small step taken towards that goal created momentum and a list of successes for those people that turned skepticism into hope and hope into reality.  In the situations that I refer to, it started with an individual.  Someone with an idea.  Someone who could accomplish those ideas, rally people and motivate them.  Of course there had to be followers.  I have been a follower as well as a "lone nut", as Derek Sivers call them in his TED talk.   Having played in these roles, I do believe that one person can make a difference and become  a leader.   One person can start the ball rolling, but the dedication of others are needed to keep it going.  So how can one influence people to rally around a cause?

One does not attain influence by "lording over others", but by empowering others.  Acknowledging a person's strengths or helping people find their strengths, is critical in empowering and sustaining volunteers.  Becoming a good listener, as well as being genuinely interested in people, is an incredible asset in this.  I've discovered that time spent (and it does take a long time) in this area helps foster investment.  Discovering their strengths, and in turn their weaknesses, allows an organization to correctly place and motivate people.  In business terms this perhaps sounds as easy as an interview.  In business, it can be, but when it comes to volunteer work, one must delve deeper.  Meeting the needs of the individual can be just as important as the mission of the organization.  Volunteers are asked to work for the sake of that organization's mission, without monetary compensation.  They are asked to donate their time, their talent or other resources to their cause.  People must believe that the time they take from their day and their family is worth it.  This can only be true, if it is made so.  This is the gift that community leaders have.  They find out what makes their mission "worth it" to an individual, how that fits the organization, and then helps the volunteer achieve their objectives within the organization's framework.  This in turn helps motivation, morale, and volunteers feel like they are receiving a good return of investment.  Empowerment helps create other community leaders and helps make your organization more attractive to others, allowing your organization and its mission to flourish.




Saturday, February 2, 2013

A Look Back - Part 5 (Finally!)


This is the final installment of a short series.  The intent is to keep these posts brief.  You can read parts 1-4 in the archive.  Thanks for following me on this continuing journey.  :)

PART 5

Pax
Maria B. Davis
It is now 17 years after I made that fateful decision to "stay home" and I am now into the 7th year of this journey of re-discovery.  My "traditional" life really didn't turn out to be all that traditional.  Perhaps no such thing really exists or ever really did.   I am often away, during the day, while my kids are at school, to the dismay of our cat.  My expectations of youth were changed by time and experience, resulting in a current life that I never thought I would have.  

I only have a few years left with my children living at home.  Being present and in the moment for them is important to me.  They, and my husband, are the reason I left my prior life behind-and for the better I must say.  I struggle daily with balancing my family life with the demands of my community of friends and associates.  On most days life is good.  On some days it is incredibly wonderful.  On some days it is horrendous...but I suspect everyone's life is a bit like that.  Now, when someone asks me what I do, I just may answer:  I am an artist, a graphic designer, a sword fighting elf/pirate, community organizer and mom.  I may also add that I am often distracted by bright shiny objects...or a really good project.

Friday, February 1, 2013

A Look Back - Part 4


This is the fourth installment of a short series.  The intent is to keep the blog entries brief.  You can read parts 1, 2 and 3 in the archive.


PART 4

Madonna & Child
Maria B. Davis
Let's jump back to my kids and the reason I started my journey of re-discovery, community volunteering and organizing. I enjoyed and still enjoy caring for my children.  I'm glad that I have been there for their first steps, their first words and many other "firsts" in their life.  As I watched them grow from infancy to elementary school, I became keenly aware that they would eventually grow up and leave home to continue their own life journey.  They are my world, and I hoped, and still do today, that someday they would have their own children who would be their world.  When my last child entered elementary school,  I decided that in order to take advantage of opportunities that might arise in the future, planning and doing needed to start now rather than later.  I wasn't even sure who I was anymore.  Wishes and dreams that I held long ago were no longer the same and this journey of re-discovery developed by simply "doing" and figuring out just what I enjoyed or didn't.  I did, however, know that I wanted my community to be a better place for my family to work, play and live in.  That became a mission.  Sometimes I am paid.  Many times I am not.  This, although at times, a difficult aspect of my life,  has allowed me the flexibility to be fairly independent creatively as well as given me flexibility of time.  I chose to be the main caregiver to my children.  In choosing this, I have given up things, but gained so much more.   At times I have failed miserably.  I have had projects that have taken so much time that it created disharmony in my family which was never, and is never, my intention.  I've made many mistakes and had my successes.  Time can be, and I believe is, a person's most valuable gift to someone.  It goes forever forward and never back.  Once given it cannot be undone.  Many of my regrets live in time away from my family.  I hope not to accumulate more as I serve them and my community.